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A girl has a style in mind, she knows what she wants the color the embellishments etc.. Well I don't have a dress in mind I have 20 and while an old friend of mine from Morocco showed me here wedding pictures styling a total of 7 dresses I still want more, but I know American weddings just don't supply time for more than two. It really is quite silly one boring white dress, my apologies to all those that love white but it is quite dull to the senses over done in my opinion, not that black would be better but color vibrant uplifting color fun music and bright colors are the best cure for boring, ambiance shouldn't be such a sobering formal affair, joy should ring through the day.

Needless to say I've made a few other wedding dresses in my day (not all of them white either), and I check the current trends on wedding styles quite often, but I'm dissatisfied with the market right now. Not that I would ever buy the dress, but I'm not above trying to stick with trends. One thing that really disgusts my senses is the belt look a fitted bodice and then some ribbon around the waist, really Vera you can do better! The whole belt looks throws off the conservative office vib, it's like you have opulence and grace then it all gets tied in at the waist to show conformity, if that's what a bride wants a nice original white suite would be great.

Another trend is that lovely pleated puffy look, I so loved this style when it first came out, but being an artist and artist are naturally against the status-quo, and having watched the bridal market for so long my tastes have changed and so has the style it's self. The style started as this big poof surrounded by layered poofs, now with it's introduction to the lower price market it's become a couple of tucks and pleats, to save on fabric costs of course, as if getting 500% profit wasn't enough for the wedding dress warehouses??? I still think it's a romantic look if done with enough fabric but wouldn't suggest buy the lower dollar dresses of this style (under $1000), you may like the style but it looks cheap if done only half way, if it's not in your budget consider a flat laying style or something that accents your body type.

Body Type style, well that defiantly leaves me in whole new direction, why on earth is it so popular right now for every dress to be sleeveless it's just so wrong! It almost seems you can only get a strap or sleeve if your over weight. Who's designing these dresses Men? That's a rhetorical question, I'm well aware that the greater percentage of successful designers are in fact male (regardless of sexual orientation) but gay or not, men are not born with our body types rarely ware our clothing and have only an eye for the female body not a live in knowledge of it. Ok, I'm gonna take a moment to openly, publicly complain about my distaste for male designers then I'll get back to the strapless thing. A intercity gay male once told me that he had better fashion sense than myself due to his gender and sexual orientation dominating the female fashions for the last century. I am in no way able to dispute his claims, all that I can add is that men in general have been designing making and selling women's clothes for the last 2000 years and controlling the entire market, Men have also dominated the culinary industry, and the banking industry and every other industry in existence, with the exception of midwifery and breast feeding. So in short male domaintation of any market and all markets, is entirely a cultural phenomenon and not proof of Superior knowledge. There is a reason that women primarily ware pants or jeans now that society has deemed it acceptable, pants are more comfortable and versatile for everyday work and even lounging, wools and silks are easy to soil and hard to clean, skirts can easily show off to much, and we women are busy people. So having a male that has no personal concept of a woman's humility in dressing, activities and life style to dress a woman, is not only a insult but a grave mistake in the fashion market, how could a species that is able to take their shirt off when it gets too hot out, understand a species that is not only unable to take ones shirt off, but is often highly embarrassed if any wardrobe malfunctions do occur. Walk a mile in someone else's shoes then you can start making life decisions for them. So back to the strapless thing, it's kinda like the whole high heels thing it, it might look good but it's not for every one, strapless is a very bare feeling even a bare back isn't for every girl but it seems to be every where for now, and weddings are very active events.

Did I forget the see though bodice, ha ha ha, thank heavens this style isn't any more popular than it is right now, it seems to only appear in NYC and LA. I just couldn't imagine a little country bride in Kansas waring one of these in-front of their god fearing in-laws. I cannot for the life of me understand the teddy waring bride, incase you have yet to see it the bodice is covered in lace and see through in all areas except the breasts and boneing. Daring isn't the word for this style, yes it's sexy trendy and suggestive, but I wonder how many brides will regret their wedding photos in years to come, just like the 80's hair and acid wash jeans I predict many a wedding albums will be buried in attics and kept out of the childrens reach due to this style. Not to say it's total taboo, just sleep on it if your considering it, it would probably be acceptable if you live near a nude beach, but North American society is a bit too chaste for such styles.

Let's see I do know what I don't want, I might even know what I do want I want a 1916 Worth evening gown white satin with black velvet overlay fashioning rod iron work this gown is currently housed at the met, but I could recreate it. Or a bright red gown, or electric blue, the whole gown not that white with a touch of color thing. But a marriage is a union and I'm trying desperately to understand my husband and accept him and his wishes (however boring they may be), it's my own fault really that I would choose someone boring, you see I have this disposition or attraction to men that show stability normalcy(that's an evil word btw), simple American values(well some resemblance to values) I have a desire for function and structure because I my self am such the chaotic individual, the creative world and family I came from all my closest friends not one of them would fit into some realm of average ideal American, there aren't any picket fences or two car garage suburban homes no football stars or cheerleaders on my facebook friends, to be honest I don't really believe the perfect American people even do exist but I've heard stories and I've seen a great deal of people almost devoid of interesting lives so I imagine some resemblance of this fairytale does exist.
Fairytales yes back to weddings again, and the dress, being that I believe I'm marring someone else and do not consider this a personal admiration day just for the bride but see it more in the sense of a union of two persons and celebration of friends and family for that union, I have succumb to the fact that my partner is far far more conservative and conventional and traditional than myself. He's a Groomzlia, lol, no he just insists on a white dress and some resemblance to average, of course other parts of the wedding will probably not be so traditional (he's a sucker for Indian, Moroccan, Mediterranean and Chinese food) thank goodness. With all the pressure I've received on what a perfect wedding should be, it's a surprise that I'd invite any guests at all, sure they all say it's your day then they add in some expected convinces they'd like you to incorporate in the event, (except my real friends they really do mean it's my day) I guess I'm really lucky to have so many real friends, but the family is intolerable, I wonder why the family doesn't already realize they are in fact an important honored guests, I won't even go into the families most recent requests, it's so silly how everyone thinks they'll be left out of the spot light. So I've made dozens upon dozens of sketches and a great many times I've been fully convinced I'm ready to cut the fabric I even have my undergarments, but alas with the ability to make anything I choose the knowledge of beading sewing embroidery and several other embellishments I'm at a stand still with so many options like a kid at a candy store blinded by colors and unable to buy just one item. I've said many times this is the one this is perfect just to find myself back a drawling board the very next day, what I need to do is create an entire line not just one dress.